If you can't say anything nice....
Why is it that people feel like they can say anything they want, good or bad, without offense?
Yesterday, someone dropped an item off at our house for me. We were chatting a bit and then she had the nerve to ask me if I was ill or something because to her I was too "skinny".
Excuse me?
I admit that I have lost a good deal of weight since working outside of the home. That is just how my body reacts to activity (remember: I'm no longer a kept woman-ha,ha). I know I've lost weight. My clothes don't fit anymore and I've resorted to wearing belts with my jeans. You need not point out the obvious to me. The host of comments I've received recently have been largely negative. I think there might be an ounce of jealousy by the women who feel it is their right to tell me I'm skinny or that I look ill. If you feel so inclined to discuss my weight with me, can you put it in a more positive form of a question or comment? I'm already self-conscious about the whole thing but these negative comments just exacerbate it.
YES! I'm eating right! NO! I'm not doing this intentionally!
Let's just hope you're not the next poor soul to comment about my weight!
On the flip side, Susan came home from school yesterday in tears. It seems that a certain teacher of hers was inquiring about whether she was still involved in swimming. Susan told her no, that the season had ended. This teacher had the nerve to then say that she could really tell that Susan wasn't involved in any physical activity because she was looking a bit chunky!
Excuse me?
Needless to say, I will be making a phone call to the school today. I can expect these kind of comments from peers, but from her teacher? I take that back. Given what I just wrote about myself, I guess it doesn't surprise me that this teacher felt compelled to comment on Susan's weight. Again, Susan doesn't need anyone to point out the obvious to her. She has always had weight issues and probably always will.
Lesson to learn today: If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!
Yesterday, someone dropped an item off at our house for me. We were chatting a bit and then she had the nerve to ask me if I was ill or something because to her I was too "skinny".
Excuse me?
I admit that I have lost a good deal of weight since working outside of the home. That is just how my body reacts to activity (remember: I'm no longer a kept woman-ha,ha). I know I've lost weight. My clothes don't fit anymore and I've resorted to wearing belts with my jeans. You need not point out the obvious to me. The host of comments I've received recently have been largely negative. I think there might be an ounce of jealousy by the women who feel it is their right to tell me I'm skinny or that I look ill. If you feel so inclined to discuss my weight with me, can you put it in a more positive form of a question or comment? I'm already self-conscious about the whole thing but these negative comments just exacerbate it.
YES! I'm eating right! NO! I'm not doing this intentionally!
Let's just hope you're not the next poor soul to comment about my weight!
On the flip side, Susan came home from school yesterday in tears. It seems that a certain teacher of hers was inquiring about whether she was still involved in swimming. Susan told her no, that the season had ended. This teacher had the nerve to then say that she could really tell that Susan wasn't involved in any physical activity because she was looking a bit chunky!
Excuse me?
Needless to say, I will be making a phone call to the school today. I can expect these kind of comments from peers, but from her teacher? I take that back. Given what I just wrote about myself, I guess it doesn't surprise me that this teacher felt compelled to comment on Susan's weight. Again, Susan doesn't need anyone to point out the obvious to her. She has always had weight issues and probably always will.
Lesson to learn today: If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!
If someone said that to my kid, I would go seriously medieval on that fool.
I also get frequent comments about my weight. I'm never sure if it's a backhanded compliment or passive-aggressive criticism. Either way, it's weird that any person feels some license to comment on another person's body, and I wish they'd lay off.
Reply to this
I have talked to the teacher and there seems to be a clarification made to what my dear daughter reported to me. Based on what the teacher told me, her comment to Susan was that she isn't as energetic as what she was while she was involved with the swim team. Susan must have taken that the wrong way. Now I will need to talk with Susan regarding accurately reporting a story to me.
At least I didn't go balistic when I first called the school and only said that I would like to get the teachers take on the conversation (wow, I would've felt really sheepish if my mom bear intstinct had kicked into high gear)!
Keep checking in to see how this exciting blogma (blog drama)unfolds! One thing I know for sure...if it involves Susan, it ought to be good!
Reply to this